And who holds you back?

There is something about fortune cookies that I like. It’s like your own little piece of gypsy wrapped in a carb baked cookie after you ate your body weight in spicy eggplant. Very comforting. 

I’ve always kept my little wisdom, I take them home and keep them in a glass jar. Sometimes I’m excited about it, sometimes I just smirk and sometimes it makes me think.

Like this one, I got today. (Cheat meal obviously, no judging).

The past few months have been about the next step, the next version of oneself. I’ve asked myself if what I was doing on any given day was going to get me closer to who I want to be tomorrow. 

It takes courage! It takes courage to understand that the one person holding you back, is most likely yourself. 

Here are a few things I had to let go so that I can grow:

– Doubting yourself

Never, never good for anyone. Try with all you got, should you fail- you’ll grow from it. If you doubt yourself in the beginning you ain’t going anywhere. Just because something states ‘CLOSED’ don’t doubt that you can’t get there! Roads closed? You hike! Believe me I learned a lot about that, with compliments to the highway 1 closure! 

– Procrastination 

I am still very guilty of this one, it’s a tough habit to break. I’m trying hard. Again, make a decision that is in line with what you believe in – that holds up your standards of integrity – and base it on weather it gets you closer to where you want to be. If it does not work out, you will grow. Be informed about your options but make that decision! 

– Negative Self Talk or Negative Thoughts

Just don’t. Do not ever do that. I made myself run a mile for every negative thought that I caught. Pretty sure I can run a marathon soon. Get something positive out of something negative. Sore hamstrings don’t count! 

– Fear of success 

I learned once that fear translates to ‘False Evidence Appearing Real’ and one cannot fear being successful. Or what other people think about ones success. If you work hard and give it your all, you are deserving of the success and no one can take that from you! This is not about luck, this is about working hard and getting what you work hard for! Go for it! 

– People Pleasing

Ugh a tough one. I work in hospitality I do it all the time. I had to learn that unless they are guests, you can’t walk through life pleasing other people. Be kind, help others be their best and be humble but that does not equal the constant need to please other people. 

– Do not take criticism personally

Listen to it, no matter how painful. Acknowledge good points made, disagree without being disrespectful. Remember that anyone who accomplishes great things will have some critics. Remember your own core values, take what you need to grow and be appreciative of it. 

As the one and only Dr. Brene Brown said: You can choose courage or you can choose comfort but you cannot choose both! 

Don’t hold yourself back! Let’s go! Happy October!

Cheerio!